{"id":1341,"date":"2021-03-15T15:53:52","date_gmt":"2021-03-15T22:53:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/adamclarklcsw.com\/?p=1341"},"modified":"2022-05-19T17:53:10","modified_gmt":"2022-05-20T00:53:10","slug":"4-reasons-why-pet-loss-matters-to-the-helping-professional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adamclarklcsw.com\/2021\/03\/15\/4-reasons-why-pet-loss-matters-to-the-helping-professional\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Reasons Why Pet Loss Matters to The Helping Professional"},"content":{"rendered":"

Whether you’re a Licensed Professional Counselor, Psychologist, Marriage<\/a> & Family Therapist, Social Worker or other professional that serves others, such as Nursing and Care Workers, pet loss matters. Knowing that pet loss is a profound and realistic point of grief<\/a> for many animal lovers and pet parents is important to\u00a0adequately\u00a0serve the needs of our clients, patients, and residents.<\/p>\n

The American culture has an\u00a0underlying\u00a0fear with\u00a0death and dying<\/a>. It’s an uncomfortable topic for many, professionals alike.\u00a0Although\u00a0it certainly makes sense that unless one has spent time truly processing through their own fears, beliefs, and judgments about death, facing one’s mortality could be a scary prospect.<\/p>\n

Stanford School of Medicine launched a study<\/a>\u00a0in which they tallied the wishes of respondents to die at home. The study found that a majority of\u00a0respondents,\u00a080%\u00a0expressed their wish to die at home. The study additionally highlights, however, that in America, 60% of us die in hospitals, 20% pass in skilled nursing homes, and a measly 20% die at home surrounded by loved ones.\u00a0We have a misunderstanding about death and when asked, most will say they hope to die peacefully in their sleep overnight.<\/p>\n

Pet lovers all recognize that the time with their furry friend can be limited, but just as we have many\u00a0misconceptions\u00a0about human death, we have them about the death of our pets<\/a>. This article begins a series in exploring why exactly pet loss matters for the professional. It will highlight overall themes and\u00a0approaches\u00a0to supporting the people,\u00a0families, and systems we serve\u00a0in an\u00a0empirical\u00a0way, allowing counselors to deliver effective, culturally sensitive and responsible support to those facing difficult decisions with their four-legged friend.<\/p>\n

Reason 1: Professionals are critical for normalizing a stigmatized grief experience.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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There’s a lot of\u00a0cultural <\/a>stigma<\/a> that comes from\u00a0experiencing, and subsequently grieving, the death of a pet. Professionals can help individuals and families understand where this grief is coming from. They can also normalize the grief experience if they present an understanding of where it comes from.<\/p>\n

Many times the concept of death is smoothed-over by parents telling children their pet\u00a0went to sleep\u00a0or well-intended words are shared by friends that “it was just a pet, you can always get another one.” As a result, we have a culture of children afraid to sleep and night and wishing their pet would come back, and others that feel conflicted about the amount of grief they feel, questioning if they are going crazy.<\/p>\n

Reason 2: Not all grief is the same.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Grief never presents itself “within a box.” Meaning, even if we know there is an upcoming\u00a0physical\u00a0death and prepare with anticipatory grieving, everyone grieves in their own unique way. Take a nuclear family, for example. Each parent will be grieving differently, and each child presents with their own manifestation, and subsequently coping ability to process through their emotional experience.<\/p>\n

Not only does grief impact us, the fact that it is a pet will also impact us. Complications arise with a\u00a0traumatic grief experience of our pet<\/a>, or if we are facing an\u00a0incomplete loss through a pet running away<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Reason 3: Euthanasia decision making<\/a> and the impact on the psyche.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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A lot of complicated emotions arise when having to make a choice as difficult as euthanasia. Pet owners must make extremely difficult decision(s) when it comes to\u00a0euthanasia and assessing their pets quality of life<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Pet owners find themselves facing extreme\u00a0amounts of guilt and possible shame<\/a>\u00a0for what they are experiencing. Most pet owners find themselves\u00a0facing sleep disturbances<\/a>\u00a0and may find it difficult continuing the tasks required for meeting basic needs and engaging in self-care.<\/p>\n

Professionals can help the people that they serve navigate through the complex structure of emotions that families and individuals face\u00a0during a difficult time. Professionals can also provide guidance on\u00a0maintaining\u00a0basic needs and processing through the guilt<\/a> experience in a healthy, constructive way.<\/p>\n

Reason 4: Understanding attachment<\/a> and the positive role of animals within the life-cycle.
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\nKey to understanding many areas of our life is our level of attachment. Whether we have unhealthy or healthy attachments, pet owners will be impacted in a significant way when faced with the death of a pet.\u00a0Children, for example, typically experience the death of a pet or small animal as one of their\u00a0first\u00a0experiences of loss. If handled properly, a loss experience can build\u00a0children’s\u00a0resilience<\/a>\u00a0and impact their worldview of death, promoting a reduction of fear<\/a> and stigma that’s so typically associated.<\/p>\n

Pets are immensely beneficial supports that build an empathetic<\/a> connection and bond throughout the human life-cycle. Individuals who struggle with social isolation<\/a>, coping methods, and mental health concerns can all benefit from the positive relationship built between themselves and their pets.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, many such individuals and family systems do not prepare ahead of time for a loss experience, and can be left feeling completely\u00a0devastated\u00a0should their pet suddenly fall ill, or in the case of a traumatic<\/a> loss. Professionals can begin to teach and understand anticipatory grief and making plans in case of such events.<\/p>\n

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Adam Clark, LSW, AASW<\/strong>\u00a0is a published writer, educator, and adjunct professor at the University of Denver\u2019s Graduate School of Social Work. Adam focuses his work on the psychology behind the human-animal bond, specializing in endings and transitions. He is passionate about reducing the cultural stigma associated with pet loss, supporting pet owners, and educating veterinary professionals. Additional information on Adam and his current projects can be found at\u00a0www.lovelosstransition.com<\/a>, or he can best be reached at\u00a0adam@lovelosstransition.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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